"During lovemaking, if a
man cannot not find the right rhythm, he will easily
lose his vital essence (sperm). This will result in an
ejaculatory orgasm which leads to exhaustion. If it
happens frequently in a short period of time, then the
100 diseases will start to develop in his body."
Fang - Pi - Chun
According to Taoist
philosophy, man, having all male attributes represents
the Yang (+) force. The masculine principle is a lot
more volatile, faster and more active than the feminine
principle which represents the Yin (-) force.
The woman is more passive;
her moves are calmer and slower. By comparing male
sexual vigor to female eroticism the ancient texts often
use metaphors of fire and water.
Fire belongs to Yang,
though its action is fast and strong, it is often
defeated by water, which is a predominantly Yin force.
Nowadays, control over the
ejaculation is a very important element in sexual
intercourse. This is the most important issue in the
Taoist art of love. Let's take into account some Taoist
1. Beginners should not to
be too excited or too passionate, too hasty or hurried.
2. The beginner must learn
to penetrate the vagina very slowly (and gently) and
come out suddenly if he feels that ejaculation is
3. If he feels that the
excitement increases too much, he must stop thrusting
immediately and withdraw very slowly so that only 1-2 cm
remain inside the vagina. He will remain completely
still in this position.
Then he will breathe
deeply, contract his pelvic platform muscles very
strongly (the anal sphincters and the PC muscle). At the
same time he must focus his mind on the process of
holding back his sperm.
Thus he will sublimate and
transmute the enormous force contained in the sperm into
psychic, mental and spiritual energies. After this
period (which can be 5 - 50 seconds), he can make some
moves of gradual and prudent penetration.
If he still feels that the
excitement is too much he must apply once more the
method described earlier (the blocking method) and even
the "three fingers" method before going back to
The blocking method is
also valid for a woman in the case where she has
problems controlling her sexual energy. It will be even
more efficient if both lovers use it at the same time
(even if only one of them is close to having an orgasm).
4. The one who wants to
control his ejaculation has to be careful not to be
hasty and have a very strong tenacity.
5. The blocking method
makes sexual control easier, it is very efficient but it
has to be used instantly, correctly and at the right
moment. It needs to take place sooner than the
non-return point. (when the ejaculation process has been
initiated the correct moment has passed)
What is the advantage of
having sexual intercourse without ejaculating? It is a
natural question that all men ask from the beginning of
their training to obtain control over their sexual
energies. Here is what an old Taoist treaty says:
The Emperor HUANG-TI asked
his master in the art of love:
"I would like to know now;
what is the advantage of realizing sexual union always
His Initiator SOU-NU
just once, a man is capable of making love without
losing his seed (sperm) he will strengthen his mind
and his body very much.
If he makes it twice,
his hearing will be better and his sight also.
If he makes it three
times, he will be healed from all sickness.
If he makes it four
times, his soul will be so much quieter.
Five times and his
blood circulation and heart condition will be
Six times and he will
get strong mental power.
Seven times and a
huge happiness will come to him.
Eight times and his
face and body will become radiant, magnetic and
Nine times and he
will be younger and will live longer.
Ten times and he will
be like an Immortal Genius having access to hidden,
ultimate Macro cosmic worlds, develop psychic
powers, mental and spiritual paranormal capacities
All these are also valid
for women when they can control the explosive sexual
discharge. When it is not controlled it makes her lose
her essential sexual potential that sustains her state
of pleasure and thus her erotic ability will be greatly
To Avoid Ejaculation
Now, when you started
learning how to control your sexual muscles you became
capable of learning some techniques so to help you
control your sexual energy when your arousal reaches
The more you will practice
the exercises presented on our site so far, the easier
it will be for you to practice the ones that follow and
avoid crossing the point of non-return.
The most important thing
that you must do is to maintain awareness of your own
rhythm of arousal and to stop before you reach the point
of no return.
The name given to this
technique in sexology is the stop/start technique and it
is based on the idea that it is better to stop sooner
than later, even if you feel you could keep going for a
In the beginning, you will
need to cease the stimulation for at least 30-40
seconds, so that the impulse to ejaculate will have time
to fade away.
The deep breath the basics
of sexual continence is highly important for controlling
the rhythm of your arousal and for avoiding ejaculation.
However, some men in
advanced stages of sexual continence, breathe rapidly in
order to avoid ejaculation (yogic tradition named this
pattern of breathing the fire breath), and direct the
sexual energy to the head area. Deep breathing will help
you acquire a state of inner calm and peace, while the
rapid breathing helps you transform the sexual energy
into an inner "fire" once you are advanced enough to
As we already mentioned,
the PC muscle surrounds the prostate through which the
semen must pass before expulsion.
If you learn how to
contract the prostate during orgasm in the contraction
phase (when the prostate contracts involuntarily), you
will learn how to avoid the discharge of semen. The
dreadful point of non-return is situated somewhere
between contractions and expulsion.
A man who practices
lovemaking with sexual continence described his
experience in the following terms: "I avoid ejaculation
simply by contracting my PC muscle at the right time. It
took some time to reach this result, but it is
definitely worth the effort."
Many specialists in
sexology recommend the squeezing of the penis Squeezing
- A secret way to avoid ejaculation), which is a
technique that was developed for men confronted with
The exercise is quite
simple. Place the index and middle finger of the right
hand on the posterior part of the penis, and the thumb
on its anterior side and then squeeze. Some men hold
their penis as they hold the handle of a bicycle, with
all their hand, and this helps them reduce their
Although these techniques
may be very effective in solo practice, they are quite
inappropriate when making love, because they imply
solitude. However, if this is the only way for you to
avoid ejaculation, you should do it anyway.
technique is to press the base of your penis, because
this pressure will help you control your arousal and
will strengthen your erections.
The pressure of the point
between the anus and sexual organs while contracting the
PC muscle is one of the most ancient and efficient
Taoist techniques used to control sexual energy and
This helps delay
ejaculation through concentration as well as through the
interruption of the ejaculatory flux. First, locate the
point situated slightly in front of the anus. If you
identified the correct area, then you should feel a
small hollow when you press.
You will then have to push
up a little, until you feel a slight articulation. You
may use this technique even during intercourse without
men and women, the usual orgasm (the ejaculatory orgasm
in the case of men and the explosive orgasm in the case
of women) doesn't last more than a few seconds,
regardless of its intensity.
Therefore, each man wants to prolong the
duration of the miraculous sensations and feelings felt
during orgasm. This justified wish can become a reality
if you follow the teachings of ancient Taoist works
But you have to take into
consideration that a prolonged orgasm doesn't mean the
extension of ejaculation, because ejaculation and orgasm
are not the same. So, you will learn how to prolong the
state of orgasm or in other words you will learn how to
be transported into delight for a long time.
In the beginning it is
necessary to practice certain simple exercises.
Pressing Hard On The Protatic Spot Stops Ejaculation
One of the keys of getting
control over ejaculation is self-stimulation. But the
aim is not to ejaculate, but to maintain erection for at
least half an hour. All this time the man has to
concentrate on his sensations and when he feels that he
is getting close to the climax he has to stop
self-stimulation for a few minutes.
The prostatic zone is the
equivalent of the G spot for men. The man can stimulate
this zone by pressing an exterior spot, which is
situated on the perineum, between the testicles and
anus. This is the place of the pubbo-coccygian muscle
and has the shape of the number eight.
form the so-called pelvic platform. The first loop is
the base of the penis or the vagina. The second one
surrounds the anus. The prostatic spot is situated
approximately in the middle of the perineum, where the
two loops come together.
you find it, you will see that by pressing it firmly and
rhythmically you can get an erection, also if it is
pressed very hard and this pressure is maintained for a
long time you can avoid ejaculation.
good to study your reactions when you self-stimulate.
For that we recommend combining self-stimulation and
massage of the prostatic spot.
self-stimulation check to see if a thick secretion
appears from the urinary orifice during the peak moments
of excitement. If you notice a few drops it means that
you're close to your aim - prolonging the orgasm.
This thick secretion
always comes along with a prolonged orgasm. For
beginners it is recommended not to be too excited, too
passionate, too hasty or in a hurry. It takes at least
two weeks of daily training in order to get to such a
performance, but this period of personal training is
absolutely necessary before reaching a prolonged orgasm
with your lover.
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Stand in front of a mirror
with your legs slightly spread and easily bent. Contract
your abdominal muscles. This will eventually raise the
testicles. With the help of your thumb and forefinger,
put together as a ring around the base of the testicles,
you can localize the muscles, whose contractions act
upon the testicles.
We recommend that you
repeat this exercise as many as a hundred times a day.
It is necessary to be very patient in order to get a
good control over these muscles. Once you've obtained
it, you'll notice a great improvement in your sexual
Control of sexual energy
can also be improved by traction of testicles. This can
be done by pulling up the skin between testicles or by
pulling them with your fingers in the shape of a ring.
Be careful! Do not pull too hard because you might stop
the blood flow.
Some men even use a
special ring to keep constant pressure over their
testicles. If you feel you are close to the non-return
point, where you can't avoid ejaculation any further,
you should relax your testicles and ejaculation will not
Learn how to relax the
muscles of the pelvic platform in any position. Also,
you have to stop any kind of stimulation when you are
getting close to the climax, but you can do it again
after the critical moment has passed.
When you will manage to
maintain an erection without ejaculation for at least 30
minutes, you will notice that it will be very easy to
prolong its duration even more. 30 minutes is the
shortest period of time required to produce
vase-dilatation and the proper muscular tension in order
to get a prolonged orgasm.