About A Man's Sexuality
The size, shape and
performance of the penis: a matter that all men have
worried about at some time in their lives.
Most of them keep thinking about the
mythical penis when comparing it with their own:
rock-hard, huge and with immense staying power, which
has little to do with the performance of a real penis
that has its good and mediocre days.
other men are inevitable but not always reliable because
when a man looks down at his own penis he sees it from a
different and rather unusual angle.
Thus, it may seem
smaller than the ones seen in communal showers or
changing rooms. The best way to evaluate your penis is
to look at it sideways in the mirror.
Another form of
anxiety for men is whether their penis is capable of
bringing real pleasure to a woman. A vagina is around 10
cm/4 inches in length, so it is the right size for most
of the penises. But do not forget that the width is more
important than length in stimulating the lining of the
vagina, and thereby giving sexual satisfaction to a
In exceptional cases,
when an erect penis is very small, it may produce less
stimulation. However, there are much more exciting ways
in which a woman can be stimulated. And what matters
most is the skill a man has when he uses his penis, his
sensuality, his adaptability to her body's responses.
When flaccid, penises
do vary in length, thickness and shape but the
differences become less pronounced once they are erect.
Here is a little known fact, a smaller penis will grow
proportionally more than a large one when aroused.
Penis & Erection
A full penile
erection is the result of the blood being pumped into
the erectile tissues at a much faster rate than it can
escape. Thus, the tissue swells and the penis enlarges.
The urethra is the
channel that originates at the bladder and passes
through the prostate gland and the shaft of the penis.
It terminates at the external urethral opening, situated
in the glens, or head of the penis.
Both urine and semen pass out of the body
through the urethra. The male urethra is longer than the
female one. It is up to 20cm/8in. A ring of muscles
closes off the bladder prior to ejaculation, thus
preventing urine from escaping with the semen.
The penis is the most
erotically sensitive area and most men consider it as
the most important part of their sexual anatomy.
The penis is made up
of erectile and fibrous tissue and involuntary muscles.
These muscles have a rich supply of nerves and blood
vessels, surrounded by skin.
The spongy erectile
tissue consists of three cylindrical compartments: the
two corpora cavernosa and the corpus spongiosum that
surrounds the urethra. These cylinders are filled with
blood during sexual arousal and thus the penis becomes
The glans is the head
of the penis. The semen is ejaculated through the
external urethral opening which is the center of the
The head of the
flaccid penis is normally covered with a fold of loose
skin called the foreskin or the prepuce which during
erection stretches back and exposes the glans.
The glans is the most
erotically sensitive part of the penis as it is well
served with nerve endings. The frenulum is also very
responsive to sexual stimulation. It is the area just
below the under ridge of the glans.
Men can get a full
erection of the penis sometimes within seconds of sexual
stimulation, sometimes not even after foreplay, which
can sometimes cause great anxiety for them.
Sperm develop inside
the testicles and it takes about 10 weeks for that them
to mature. During a single ejaculation 50-100 million
spermatozoa per milliliter are ejected, which is about
one spoon of semen.
Each month up to 30
billion spermatozoa are produced. However, 40% of sperm
may be deformed or inactive in one ejaculation and the
ones that are not ejaculated are reabsorbed into the
consists of an oval head, a tubular mid-section and a
whip-like tail. The head contains 23 chromosomes. Among
them there are the x or y chromosomes that dictate the
sex of the embryo after an egg has been fertilized.
The spermatozoon goes
to find this egg through the cervix, uterus and
Fallopian tube with the help of the mid-section that
acts like a motor, lashing the tail from side to side
and thereby, propelling the sperm. Sperm can survive
several days inside a woman's reproductive tract when
the proper conditions are present.
A circumcised penis
is the one that has its foreskin surgically removed.
Usually, the reason for this surgery is either religious
(in the Jewish and Muslims communities) or due to health
Some western men have
their penises circumcised for certain benefits they
consider that it reduces the risk of infection as the
organ can be kept clean much easier.
There are some
medical problems that require circumcision such as
phimosis, when the foreskin is too tight to retract
properly or balanitis, an inflammation of the penis
caused by a buildup of secretions under the foreskin.
Of Your Erection
Penis length is
defined as the linear distance along the dorsal side of
the erect penis extending from the mons veneris to the
tip of the glans.
In non-medical terms,
penis length is measured in a straight line on the top
side of the erect penis, from the skin of your belly to
the tip of your penis.
is defined as the linear distance around the widest,
thickest, part of the erect penis.
Measure Your Erection
1. Stimulate yourself into
an erectile state.
2. Place a ruler on the
skin of your belly, at the base of your erect penis.
While technically you should not push it against the
skin, some of the studies used in this guide allowed the
measurer to push it to the bone beneath the skin (pubic
bone), so if you want to you can.
3. Press the ruler against
your penis and read the nearest quarter-inch measurement
at the tip of your penis.
4. Record this number on a
piece of paper.
5. Repeat this measurement
two more times, preferably with different erections and
preferably on different days as penis size will differ
depending on the level of arousal, time of day, room
temperature, and recent sexual activity.
Penis length is not the
only factor in determining penis size. The width, girth,
or fatness, of a penis are also important aspects when
considering how you measure up.
Most people have a penis
that is either longer and thinner, or shorter and
fatter. To compare how the girth of your penis compares
to the population, use the following instructions to
determine your penile circumference (distance around the
widest part of your penis).
1. Stimulate yourself into
an erectile state.
2. Place the fabric ruler
or string end on the widest part of your penis and wrap
it once around carefully. Mark the spot where the string
first touches itself.
3. If using string, take
the marked string and lay it against the ruler. Read to
the nearest quarter-inch measurement.
4. Record this number on a
piece of paper.
Repeat this measurement two more times, preferably with
different erections and preferably on different days as
penis size will differ depending on the level of
arousal, time of day, room temperature, and recent
The Development Of Male
male sexual characteristics become fully developed
during puberty and cause many changes in a young man's
body. The first signs of puberty are noticed later at
males than at females, usually between the ages of 12
and 14 years.
with girls, the initial changes are triggered by
chemical and nerve signals in the hypothalamus. These
signals trigger the release of gonadotrophins which, in
turn, instruct the testicles to start releasing
increasing levels of male hormones, or androgens, such
as testosterone, into the blood stream. These hormonal
changes generate a sudden spurt in bone and muscle
a boy reaches puberty, his scrotum and testes increase
in size and also the pubic and facial hair begins to
grow. Sperm begins to develop within the testes and the
seminal vesicles and the prostate gland begin to mature.
larynx enlarges and the vocal chords thicken and
lengthen; thus, the voice drops in pitch. The penis
begins to enlarge at the age of 13, but it takes around
two years to reach its full adult size in.
skin becomes coarser and may darken a little; acne can
also appear as the increased level of testosterone tend
to over stimulate the oil-producing glands in the skin.
also possible for an adolescent male to experience
temporary breast enlargement. Though embarrassing, this
normally subsides within a few months.
physical changes are only slight at first, but they
speed up during the adolescent years, before stabilizing
by the time the male has reached his early twenties.
Becoming a Mans
Sometimes puberty can be a
difficult time for men. Now they have to get used to the
physical and psychic changes that occur in their own
They have to live up to
the expectations of their parents and teachers and, in
the mean time, they have to define their role in
society, to determine their own beliefs and goals.
Now they need the
friendship and guidance of more experienced men who can
act as role models in their struggle to assert their own
identity. It is a difficult, demanding, changing period
of their life and that is why they need lots of
understanding, patience and good advice.
this period, a young male will probably experience
exciting but somehow frightening new sexual feelings. He
may start to have "wet dreams" which are nocturnal
emissions. Erections occur frequently, and often
He will start having more
and more sexual fantasies which may end with
masturbation. It is common for boys of this age to
compare penises and frequency of ejaculation, and in
some cases to even masturbate together.
For most boys, these
sexual games are only a passing phase in which they gain
knowledge about their own bodies or compare their
development with others.
Males become more and more
interested in the opposite sex and relationships. Thus,
it is very important to find out about the difference
between sexuality and emotional happiness, about the
female psyche, about sexually transmitted diseases,
about contraception and about sexual continence and the
methods one can use to take the best from sexuality and
to satisfy a woman.
Though at this age the
relationships do not always last long, the emotions
involved are very intense and they offer a the chance
for sexual experimentation. Now they may start to feel
the pressure to loose their virginity as soon as
Studies have proved that
most of men claim to have lost their virginity at around
16-17 years old, but, of course, there are many who wait
until they are much older.
From now on, besides their
concern about studying, career and about coping with the
demands made from them, males start to assign a lot of
importance to their relationship with women.
In the beginning he may
want to have a large number of relationships so that he
can get enough sexual and emotional experience, but as
he grows older to will start to look for his true mate.
Man's Sexual Peak
The frequency of orgasm
(either through masturbation or lovemaking) and the
amount of resting time he needs between each ejaculation
determine the sexual peak of men.
The period of their life
when they are most sexually potent is during their
teenage years and early twenties when their virility
stabilizes. From now on, unless he learns how to
preserve his sexual potential through the means of
sexual continence, his virility starts to decline and he
will need longer periods of recovery between each
In time men acquire more
knowledge about their sexual responses and become more
sensitive to a woman's sexual and emotional needs, which
can make them better lovers, with more staying power
during coitus or even sexually continent (able to live
multiple and prolonged orgasms without ejaculating).
This undoubtedly enhances the sexual, emotional and
spiritual satisfaction of both of the lovers.
Traditionally, “foreplay” was considered to be something
that a man had to do to get his partner ready for sexual
intercourse. Today, foreplay has become an integral part
of the whole lovemaking experience. It is true that
impromptu sexual encounters without foreplay can
sometimes be some of the best sexual experiences, but in
general, most women will agree that good sexual
encounters mean that you learn the importance of
foreplay. A more vigilant form of foreplay will bring
increased pleasure to both partners, and make the whole
lovemaking experience more enjoyable.
Spice Up Your Sex Life
Especially with age, both
partners will need a little extra spice to get fully
aroused and achieve maximum pleasure. Hence you need to
learn the importance of foreplay. The man will need to
prolong foreplay to get an erection and the woman will
need the same to become properly lubricated. Most sex
experts agree that there is no such thing as spending
too much time on foreplay. The trick is to start
intercourse when both partners are peaking with
excitement and are having a hard time controlling their
You’ve gotten learn the
importance of foreplay, which can encompass a wide range
of activities, including hugging, fondling, undressing,
kissing, and petting, performing Why is foreplay so
important? First of all, men who cuddle and kiss their
partners and know how to enjoy sensitive foreplay will
often find that their partners will not only enjoy
sexual intercourse more, but will also see their
partners reach orgasm more easily. Most women need
prolonged stimulation in order to reach a state of
complete arousal, and foreplay will provide them with
the required stimulation.
There is no such thing as
the ultimate foreplay, and it is not about pressing the
right buttons in the right order. It is about
understanding what makes your partner get hot and
delivering the things that make her experience intense
pleasure. All women are different. Some get off on being
lightly kissed all over their necks while others enjoy
direct oral stimulation.
There are many ways to
give your partner extreme sensations, but one thing is
for sure: It all begins in her brain. Simply tell her
how beautiful she is and how much you appreciate her
sexy body. By complimenting her appearance, especially
if her confidence level is low, you are giving her added
security and excitement, as well as giving her good
reasons to go all out with the foreplay.
To learn the importance of
foreplay you have to know how to set the mood. The next
step is paying attention to romantic details. Creating
the right environment for sexual intercourse can be
crucial, especially at mature stages in the
relationship. For example, make sure the room is warm,
the lighting subdued, and the sheets clean. Once the
mood is right, take the time to undress her because the
act of removing your partner’s clothes can be an
important part of foreplay. Many have found that
undressing increases the eroticism; it stimulates and
intensifies the feeling.
women spend a lot of money on nice lingerie because it
makes them feel sexy and they want it to stay on for a
while. Instead of getting her completely naked, remove
her bra strap, kiss her shoulder, and then put it back
on again. Do the same with her underwear, and, again;
compliment how good she looks in it.
During foreplay, go as
slow as you can. This will tease her. Begin by kissing
and caressing her. A kiss is usually the first physical
expression of desire but it is also often forgotten
during sexual intercourse. During intercourse, you
should kiss every part of your partner’s body and not be
restricted to the mouth. Most women complain that their
partners don’t kiss long enough and rush the movement
directly to the genital area. Don’t be shy to experiment
on every part of her body and remember to prolong the
foreplay with more kissing and caressing.
Time for Learning
This article focused on
the importance of foreplay as it is a learning
experience. Foreplay is the perfect time to spend
understanding what your partner likes because without
that, you will never learn what she really needs to be
fully stimulated. Don’t be shy; ask for feedback and
also give your own. Both partners profit from good
communication during foreplay and lovemaking. Also,
without cutting the intensity of the moment, ask her
what she really likes and what makes her go wild.
Time of Her Life
As a general rule, if she
is satisfied with her sexual experience, she will
usually make sure that you are satisfied as well. Good
luck, and remember that only practice makes perfect.
Don’t ever forget the importance of foreplay.
A Test For Test
of Sexuality lover are You?
feel love like Romeo and Juliet, passion like Tristan
and Isault, pleasure like Donatien Alphonse Francois de
Sade, orgasm like Leopold von Sacher Masoch, desire like
Each man has his own
tastes and recipes. This test-game only aims at helping
you find your own path in the mysterious labyrinth of
If you wish to play, then
answer this questionnaire and observe the following
Answer all the questions
and mark only one answer for each question.
You Are in Love You Feel
Running from her
Meditating on love.
All A Good Wife Knows
3. In A
Woman, Stupidity Is
not accounted for
4. When Do
you Prefer Women
in the morning
in the night
in the week-ends
in the evening
all the time
to polish her shoes
to bring her breakfast
to listen to her
her to be very
to visit her family
to meet her ex-lovers
6. Chose A
Gift That Would Represent Her
You make Love You Do not Like It
if she shouts
if she grumbles
if she coughs
if she scratches
if she pants
if she is contracted
I can stand anything
You Make love You like Her To
You First Saw Her You Thought She was
Year You Will Spend your Summer Holiday
You don't know where
The same place
You leave this to chance
With other people
How Do You
Make sure you have
answered all the questions and that you gave one answer
alone for each question. Now, count each answers for a,
each for b, and so on.
The a answers correspond
to the pervert type, the b to the sentimental type, the
c to the narcissistic type, d to the cerebral type, e to
the masochistic type, f to the eccentric type and g to
the "in love" type.
Take into account the
dominant letter, and in case you have several equal
letters, take the one to which you answered first during
the test. It indicates your main sexual characteristic.
Then read the portrait that corresponds to the dominant
Of course, nobody is 100
percent narcissistic or perverted. We are all cerebral
or sentimental at times, even masochistic or eccentrics.
There is nothing more unpredictable than the libido.